The Best of Both Worlds

In life at this moment “love” is a subject that has been both painful as well as pleasurable for various reasons. When we are introduced to the concept of love in a relationship, we are always given the same-modeled behavior as we grow up. We are told that love is the physical attraction between two people, who are really and truly happy with each other. Whether it is a movie, or even a fairy tale we are read every night as a child, the story is always the same. The couple is always portrayed as being worry and conflict free. It seems like in every story about love, there is always a happy ending. And then again I guess that‘s why we call it a “story”. But what if things don’t end so happily? Then who’s responsible for our hearts being broken in the end? Why is it so hard to express the hardships as well as good times of a relationship? But in reality we are being denied the full effect, the whole truth behind love, that fact that love can be pleasurable and painful.

There are some pleasant factors of love in a relationship. The feeling that there is someone who is always there for you no matter what you are going through. To add, the fact that it feels good to know that you have someone who you can call upon for comfort. The enjoyment you get when you hear “I love you” before you go to sleep, and as soon as you wake up. The feeling you get after that is priceless. There is no questioning that you can find that same type person within your friends and family, but the feeling that this person is neither a family member nor a friend, is what makes the feeling worth the while. And of course the obvious factor which is, that there is someone right beside you when you need that romantic cuddling in the middle of the night. Nevertheless, you are confident that, that love one will always be there when you need them, and that trust is the greatest feeling in the world.

Along with the pleasant sides of love, there are also the unpleasant sides as well. There are the details that most stories, movies, and even original fairy tales refuse to mention as we grow up. Details that seem like we are just expected to experience and get through ourselves, the “heartaches of love.” It is extremely difficult to figure out for yourself what to do when you can’t trust a person, mainly because you have had your heart broken too many times before. And when every single night you are dealing with arguments that lead to more arguments, and your wondering if things would ever get better. And when it comes a point in the relationship that whenever you call their phone and there’s no answer, you can’t help but think that they are doing something wrong. The countless times they give you an excuse as to why they didn’t come over. And you are totally unprepared for the time when you find out that the one you deeply love is cheating on you. How do you deal with the pain? Some say you will be okay, and that life moves on. But realistically it is not that easy to do.